Weekend Couples Intensive

SoulCare Counseling offers a special weekend couples intensive called Couples Intensive Counseling (C.I.C.). It’s 2-3 days of intense counseling usually over a weekend. I love leading them. Couples see more results in those two or three days than they would over months of weekly counseling. It’s like couples counseling on steroids! If you want to jump-start your reconnection as a couple, this is the way.

Is a couples intensive weekend right for you? Probably so, but here are some things to consider as think and talk about it.

Do You Need A Weekend Couples Intensive? Well, What Is The Condition Of Your Relationship?

When couples come to us for marriage counseling, their relationship is usually in one of two conditions:

Some relationships are in crisis.

Statistics show that couples often wait six years before finally deciding to seek help. By that time, little irritations that a few weeks in therapy would have solved have now become gaping wounds that require intensive care. Often a crisis has occurred such as an affair, a separation, or a threat of divorce. The couple are in need of a relationship E.R.

Other relationships are in distress.

The couple has become disconnected and trapped in a negative cycle of blaming and withdrawing. They don’t know how to break the cycle and get back to the close, loving relationship that they both long for.

Whichever condition your marriage is in, the couples intensive weekend is the prescription. If you’re in crisis, it’s like a relationship E.R. If you’re in distress, it’s just what the doctor ordered.

Are You Willing To Focus On Your Relationship For A Weekend?

One of the things that makes a couples intensive different from traditional week-to-week counseling is that instead of getting small doses of therapy for fifty minutes once a week, you get a big dose of therapy for a weekend. Think about it, you get fifty minutes of therapy and when it’s finished, you go right back into your routine and the madness of daily life for the other 167 hours of the week.

But in couples intensive counseling, we take you out of the chaos of daily life for thirteen or more hours over one weekend of total focus on your relationship. In that weekend, you zero in on your issues and resolve them without the tyranny of the ticking clock counting down your fifty minutes.

Can You Be Patient?

It is unusual for a couples intensive weekend to be available right away, like this coming weekend. Normally, you have to schedule a weekend in advance, sometimes a month or so out. If you absolutely must see a therapist right now, I suggest that you schedule your couples intensive and then go ahead and do weekly counseling in the meantime.

Will You Let Your Relationship Take The Spotlight?

Most people believe that marriage counseling is about them and they will be under the spotlight. Actually, the spotlight will be on your relationship and specifically on the thing that is causing the disconnection in your relationship. Let me say this loud and clear: neither one of you are the “bad guy” or “the problem.” You are the creators and victims of your negative cycle, which is the problem. You get caught up in a vortex that you can’t control, one that escalates and gets out of control. We are going to focus on the negative cycle of disconnection and learn how to break it and reconnect.

Are You Ready To Change Your Life?

The couples intensive counseling weekend is a life-changing, relationship-changing experience. If you’re happy with your relationship the way it is, don’t do one. If you want to stay in crisis or in distress longer, don’t do one. If you want to do week-to-week counseling for as long as possible, don’t do one.

I’m being facetious, of course. The weekend is wonderful. I’ve never had a couple that didn’t leave the weekend more engaged with one another, more connected, and more hopeful. That doesn’t mean there still won’t be some follow-up work to do, but you will be miles down the road.

There is nothing more important in your life than your relationship with God and then your relationship with your husband/wife and family. Those two relationships shape your whole life. I urge you to invest in taking a giant leap in your marriage relationship by reading about the couples intensive, and then reaching out to us at SoulCare Counseling to schedule your weekend.